So, your partner has hurt you, and you feel like you need to get even and teach them a lesson? Don’t. It will cause you and your relationship more harm than you could imagine. We discuss below, in detail, three reasons why you should never attempt to get even with your spouse after you find out they’ve hurt you.
- You will be holding on to the negativity – If you’ve decided that you cannot forgive the betrayal and would like to break ties with your partner, don’t consider getting even. When you think about revenge on your partner, all you are doing is keeping the negativity alive. Try to avoid acting in any way that will compound your distress further.
- It prevents you from healing – The more you think about revenge, the more you will be mulling on your partner’s betrayal. When you do this, you are making it difficult for yourself to move on with your life. How about you severe any contact with your partner for a while instead? At least, until your anger has died down and you can communicate without getting all your emotions involved.
- It will make you feel worse – Your partner may be prone to infidelity, but this doesn’t mean that you are too. If you are not the sort of person, who’d be disloyal, acting out of character to get revenge will only leave you feeling worse. Try to cope with your partner’s betrayal in ways that are more aligned with your personality. Don’t merely emulate him/her to give them a taste of their own medicine.
It’s natural to want revenge after a person has wronged you. Even more, when this person is a close relation. However, revenge doesn’t always correct the wrong you have been subject to, and one must keep this in mind when they react,