Friendships are important. In fact, they are one of the most important relationships one can have in their lives. However, when a person gets married, it’s time for them to put their marriage first. Some friends accept this very easily, but other friends have a hard time sharing your time and attention with your newly married spouse. While it’s okay to have friends who crib a little about how they’re being put on second priority, it isn’t healthy to have friends who guilt you about this. We discuss three kinds of friends below that can be disastrous for your marriage –
- The friend that doesn’t understand your need for privacy – You know, the kind that always wants to spend time with you even though they know you now have housework to take care of? It’s okay to let loose and party with your friends occasionally but not at the risk of jeopardizing your married life.
- The friend that speaks ill of your spouse – Some friends don’t understand that your spouse is now your better half. When they critique them, it hurts as much as it would when they criticize you. Draw a line. Tell these friends that they don’t have the permission to badmouth your husband/wife in front of you. We eventually become our company, and you don’t want this kind of negative energy in your life.
- The friend that doesn’t acknowledge your Significant Other – Yes, there are friends like these too. Your friends should be able to communicate and share a friendly relationship with your significant other. If your friend doesn’t acknowledge the existence of your spouse very often, it’s because they’d rather that they didn’t expect. Recognize this behavior and call it out.
If you want your marriage to thrive, stay away from the three kinds of friends listed above at all cost.
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