Allows you to put it all on the table
Creating a space of vulnerability and freedom to discuss issues isn’t something that typically just happens. When there is something that you want to discuss or get off of your chest set a time and a place. Make a date out of it to avoid feelings of defensiveness and “attack”.
Allows for your spouse to see your perspective
You would be surprised to know that you don’t always know everything. This can be an opportunity to freely explain why you do or don’t do what you do. You should never assume anything about your spouse because the reality is you’re not going to know everything they are thinking.
Allows for clean slates, compromise, and moving forward
Now that the conversation has been had, use it as a growing opportunity. It takes a lot of strength to talk openly with your spouse about the “hard stuff”. You never know how hey will react or respond but creating an open environment will help. Once everything is on the table discuss what to do moving forward to address what was discussed. Compromise is going to be key here.
Be sure to come from a place of love. Speak to be understood and listen to understand. Remember that you are a team and working with each other not against each other. Pray before and pray after and let God move in your marriage!
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