Hey fam! We are in the age of social media “goals”, relationship “goals” and so on and so forth but how do we know it is authentic? This idea of perfection has built a slew of unrealistic expectations and in return has built caused major issues. For the men this idea of a perfect provider/husband is a heavy load to bare but we’re here to give you a few tips. A Man doesn’t need to be perfect to make a woman happy, all he needs to do is be the man he said he was when he met her. That’s it! That’s the key! The man that you were when you met her is the man that she fell in love with. Now what we are NOT saying is to stay stagnant and not look for opportunities to “glow-up” together but not to get lost in all the extra that you forget who you truly are. Here’s 3 tips we think can help.
1. Be the man you said you were, the authentic you- Don’t put on a facade, keep that same energy to get her to keep her. Have those tough conversations, see each other when you are broken, upset and happy so you know how to handle each other.
2. Ask her what makes her happy, and things that you do that makes her unhappy- It really is that simple. Allow her the freedom to change. The things Kayla liked 10 years ago are not the same things she likes today. Remember people grow and that’s ok. This would be a great opportunity to take the Love Language Test.
3. Remember you set the tone-It doesn’t matter what she’s doing or not doing the things she use to you set the tone for your home. You are responsible for the atmosphere of the home. Want a home of prayer? Pray with your family more. Want a home of grace? Show grace? Want certain things cleaned up? TELL YOUR WIFE YOU WANT TO HELP HER!
With all that you do keep God first and trust that He has a plan for you and your marriage.
With love,
The Stutsons
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