Have you ever caught yourself in “The Roommate Phase” ? What’s this? Glad you asked! This is a time in your relationship/marriage that you are functioning more as roommates than spouses. Checking schedules, paying bills, meal prepping, etc. you know all the things that roommates do. This type of season can creep up on you without your really noticing it. Stop and ask yourself when was the last time we discussed something other than the functions of our home? When is the last time we went out and dated like we did in the beginning? When was the last time “I love you” was said sincerely and not out of routine? Let’s discuss 3 ways to get out of “The Roommate Phase”.
- Do the boring stuff TOGETHER! Take the time to help your spouse with the chores or walk the dog, or just run errands together. This allows for unplanned bonding time to discuss any and everything.
- Skin-to-Skin CUDDLING and hugging first thing in the morning. It can’t always be about sex. Did you know cuddling creates more sexual satisfaction and intimacy, boosts immune system, helps you communicate emotions (love, gratitude, and sympathy), relieves stress and anxiety, and can help relieve pain.
- DATE! We cannot stress this enough. Find that love and enthusiasm you had in the beginning, reconnect, discuss dreams of the future, or have a vulnerable moment and let your spouse know what you are struggling with.
We hope these three things will help pull you from the funk of The Roommate Phase. If you have any others that work for you please leave it in the comments!