When most people hear the words submissive wife it often comes with a negative connotation (doormat, person pleaser, etc.) What many don’t realize is that there is great strength required to be a submissive wife. The Bible clearly explains the hierarchy of the marriage covenant, the does and don’ts, and the consequences of households that are out of order.
Before getting married we, ladies must think long and hard about the “…wives be submit to your husband as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). This is a big statement but it has to be read for exactly what is says, WIVES submit to your HUSBAND. It does not say to your friend with benefits, boyfriend, common law or soon to be husband, but to your husband. The man that God choose for you and vowed before Him to enter into marriage. Media and “the times” have caused the mindset of submission to be greatly skewed. Submission to your husband shouldn’t be hard. Do you love him? Do you trust him? Do you believe that he would never do anything to hurt you intentionally? Then what’s the problem? We believe the source is what happened in your relationship prior to the marriage? Did you marry out of obligation? Did you come into the marriage with trust issues? Were you hurt deeply but decided to stay? These are all situations that have to be discussed prior to make a successful marriage.
Submission doesn’t mean to be silenced. Although we are to submit to our husbands as we do the Lord the Bible also calls the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. So in retrospect, your husband shouldn’t silence your wives but “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) I do not know a man that wouldn’t want his prayers to be heard because of his conduct with his wife.
Ladies, in submission to your husband you have to let him lead your home in the way God intended it to be. You have to trust that the same God that you pray to is also the same God leading your husband in his decisions. Yes, even the ones you don’t agree with because there could be a lesson that God is trying to teach your husband and you are jus there for the ride.
So now you see this is a two way street. Ladies submission is simply allowing your husband to lead your house in the manner and path that God has set for you. Every up, every down, everything has a purpose. Trust and believe that God has you both and you will not fail.