Marriage is a gift from God. It doesn’t work for God, your partner and you to rush into it. There are many stories of people who get married too quickly only to sign divorce papers in a couple of years. How do you know when you’re ready? Let’s find out.
- Your identity shouldn’t be defined by marriage – The only source of your identity is Jesus. You shouldn’t look at marriage as a way to get acceptance, approval or as a way to quickly gain status. Marriage might get you those things in the short-term. However, you won’t keep them.
- You are in a good place mentally – According to Jeremiah 29:17, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” The take away from this is that you need to address all of your issues before committing to a person. These things can be kept at bay when in good conditions. However, when an unfortunate incident occurs, they have a tendency to flare up and make their presence known.
- You know that life doesn’t flare up with excitement after marriage – Marriage is an exciting journey. However, too many couples enter it expecting it to spice up their lives. Much of life revolves around the monotonous things such as paying bills, washing dishes, vacuuming your floors and so on. Marriage doesn’t change these things. You won’t gain new levels of excitement and meaning after marriage.
There are many other signs which will tell you when you’re ready. Start with these and work your way to the other signs. Don’t make the decision on a single day. Hover around the thought and think about it during bad times as well as good times and see how you feel about it after a great deal of thinking as well as talking about it.