Ladies, when he asked what were your first thoughts? Was it an immediate yes? Had the idea of marriage been strategically planned from the first date? Had he swept you off your feet? Or looking to secure your future?
Most women can relate to all the above. Do we marry for love, status, or security. I believe it’s safe to say that we marry for all three.
Love-If your relationship has God in the center, a solid foundation, and stood the test of time its almost like why not, right? But we have to consider the times when things are gonna get rough. Will you be able to communicate and work your way through those tough times? How do you respond to each other during a disagreement. Are you able to easily discuss your thoughts and opinions? Are you listening to understand or listening to respond? Marriage won’t be the magic key that will fix it all. In fact it will push you to your limits as you learn that you are truly a team and there is no more “me” but now a “we”.
Status/Security– Many look to marriage as social status and a source of security. “Well I’m getting up there I need to get married”. It seems there is this unwritten rule that you are supposed to get married and “secure” a man by a certain age. I say to you ladies, marriage is a beautiful thing but it is not for the faint of heart. There is a large portion of selflessness that has to take place. Your husband will be the head of your house. Are you ready to submit to him as head of your house? Are you ready to let him lead you in the direction that God is taking him for your home? This means stepping out on faith in a lot of situations. Others are marrying with the idea of being married will lock-in a future of financial security/safety. In the past many women married for this exact reason and that is ok. One of a woman’s top need is security just make sure this is not the ONLY reason.
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