It is one of the questions that has divided couples for generations and continues to do so. Marriage as an institution is one of the most crucial steps of your life, and it can throw up various questions over which there will be disagreements, arguments, and conflicts.
It is imperative to sit down and solve them with an open mind while being in control of your thoughts and emotions. It is essential to do so to restrain yourself from saying something which you might regret later on.
When you get married, in most cases, you have known your partner for long. Inevitably, therefore, there is a high probability that you know his/her friends and who they are really well. However you or your significant other might have problems with you still being friends with them, especially if there is some amount of history involved.
It all depends on a case by case basis. If there’s some precarious history between you and your friend, your spouse is probably right in telling you to limit communication or stop talking to them altogether.
However, in some instances, it might also be unfounded. Your spouse might inform you to stop being friends just because he/she feels that they have ulterior motives. It then becomes your responsibility to allay your spouse’s fears.
You have to make your wife/husband understand that there is nothing that he/she needs to worry about, and you love them and only them.
On the other hand, you may also want to tell them that if you even start feeling that your friend might be making the moves on you, you will stop all communication with you friend and end the friendship right there and then.
As I said, it is a subjective case. The onus is on the one that has to prove that there is nothing suspicious going on. At the end of the day, everything can be solved with an open mind, healthy communication, and trust.
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