3 Focal Points During Your Single Season
Hey everyone! We’ve been hearing and seeing a lot lately and wanted to talk to our single followers. Although marriage is great, Marqus and I never really took advantage of our “Single Season” which caused extra work in our marriage. Today we’re discussing 4 major focal points during your season of singleness.
- Time to heal-You have to have time to heal from the one that hurt you or the one you hurt so that you do not bring that into your next relationship. We have a tendency to say “Oh I’ve been hurt before so that’s why I’m like this” and while part of this is true, you CANNOT punish the new person for the old person’s faults. Personally I’m a “innocent until proven guilty” but watching for characteristics at the same time. Use this time to truly examine yourself and become whole again.
- Go Deeper with God-I’ve heard a lot of my friends say they’re dating God and I always thought that was weird until I took time to examine it. A date defined as “a social or romantic appointment or engagement” and looking at it in that light it started to make more sense. Be intentional with your time with Him. Set those date nights or mornings, talk with Him throughout the day, allow Him to show you the love that He wants for you.
- Community with Accountability- It’s dangerous to have a “yes man”. You need someone to tell you “nah sis/bro that’s not a good idea”. This is essential to keep you on track. Those moments of weakness ARE going to come and you’ll need someone in your corner to pray for and with you.
- HAVE FUN- Use this time to do go, see, eat, live! Learn your likes and dislikes, favorite destinations, cuisines, cultural experiences. Explore who YOU are in this moment and LOVE on yourself for who you are in this moment.
With all of that being said, learn to love yourself wholly so you’re not looking for someone to make you whole.